We’ll review all of this info in detail during your first visit to the dungeon, along with a tour and time for you to ask all those questions you’ve been too shy to post online. 😉
🔎 First Visit Requirements:
When you arrive, you’ll need to:
- Show a state or federally issued photo ID
- Sign a liability waiver
- Use your legal name (we’ll also make note of your birthdate)
Why?
Because we’re going to check you out. Not to gatekeep over an old traffic ticket—but to ensure we maintain a safe and welcoming space. Our goal is to keep out the riffraff, not nitpick your past.
The Society – 2025 Orientation
🏠 Ms. Di’s Property
The Dungeon & Studio are on private property. Treat the space with care and respect.
Ms. Di’s house is off-limits unless you have permission from her, a board member, or a Red Band.
🔖 Lanyards & Roles
- Yellow – “Rookie Stripe” (1st 3 parties). You’re new—we’ve got your back.
- Black – Vetted member. Ask them questions!
- Red – Red Bands (RBs) & board members. Our trusted leaders, dungeon monitors, and go-to help.
RBs wear red armbands and handle safety, questions, and enforcement.
🧭 Dungeon & Studio Basics
- Break something? Tell a Red Band or Ms. Di ASAP.
- Ask before using Dungeon toys.
- Studio = open play area (rope, impact, primal).
- Medical Room = ask permission before using anything.
- Lounge/Kitchen = social only. No play.
- Outdoor Pavilion = casual space and pre-arranged messy play (ask first!).
🔐 Privacy
Respect everyone’s privacy and identity. No photos, no name-dropping, no outing. Ever.
Don’t ask personal questions (real name, job, etc.).
Violation = possible ban.
👕 Dress Code
- Dungeon/Studio parties: Casual to full fetish. Nudity OK—use a barrier on seats.
- Public events (dinners, whips-in-the-park, etc.): Vanilla casual only.
- Movie and Game nights: Casual or PJs.
- Be clean Hygiene matters. No strong scents or body odor.
🚫 Rules on Substances & Safety
- No alcohol.
- No illegal substances.
- No solicitation (no gifts or money in exchange for play/sex).
- Smoking/vaping outside only—not near doorways.
- No firearms.
🎩 Protocol & Respect
- Titles (Sir, Mistress, etc.) are not required. Don’t assume submission.
- Respect personal dynamics and protocols. If you don’t like it, walk away.
- Follow house norms: quiet during announcements, be respectful in public.
📵 Basic Respect Rules
- Phones on silent. Take calls outside.
- No photos without full permission.
- Don’t touch people/toys/gear without consent.
- Don’t interrupt scenes. Don’t hover or crowd the space.
- Be quiet during scenes. Use social areas for chatting.
- Respect scene space—even if empty.
- Don’t join or comment on scenes unless invited.
- Clean up after yourself.
🛑 Safewords & Signals
- Yellow = Slow down / check in
- Red = STOP now
–Mayday = Emergency – Outside assistance is needed immediately
- Hand Signals (for gagged play):
- 👍👍 = Green
- 👍 = Yellow
- Jazz hands = Red
Two squeezes = safety check when hands are restricted
⚙️ Scene Etiquette & Play Rules
- Watching = eyes & ears only Don’t comment or disrupt.
- No sexual activity of any kind is permitted, regardless of the genders or identities of the people involved.
- Edgeplay (CNC, breath play, needles, etc.)? Notify Ms. Di or RB first.
- Messy play = Ask first & use plastic. Scat is not allowed.
- Don’t abandon your bottom —if you must leave, get a RB to step in.
- Try something new? Ask for a mentor or monitor.
- Gag loud bottoms—we have neighbors.
- Compliment & ask questions AFTER scenes/aftercare are done.
✅ Consent, Negotiation & Boundaries
- Only YES means yes. “Maybe later” = no.
- “No” is healthy. Practice using and respecting it.
- Consent can be revoked at any time.
- Don’t touch anyone without asking—yes once doesn’t mean yes forever.
- Negotiate before play. Be specific. Avoid renegotiating mid-scene.
- Creepy behavior? Persistent asking? Let a Red Band know.
❓Still Have Questions?
Reach out to Ms. Di, a Red Band, or Board Member. We’re here to help.