🛑 Play Space & Scene Basics
Watching & Learning
✅ Observing scenes is encouraged—just use your eyes and ears only, not your hands or mouth.
❌ No eye rolling or rude comments. If it’s not your thing, quietly leave the area.
✅ Feel free to ask questions—after the scene and aftercare have ended or by approaching a Red Band.
Sex & Toys
❌ No sex is allowed at play parties.
✅ You may use dungeon toys and furniture, but ask a Red Band or Ms. Di first.
✅ If something breaks or needs moving, tell a Red Band right away.
Edgeplay & Messy Play
✅ Edgeplay (like CNC, blood, breath, needles) is allowed only for experienced players, and must be cleared with Ms. Di or a Red Band before starting.
✅ Messy play (wax, piss, splooshing) requires plastic coverings—ask where to set up.
❌ Scat play is not allowed.
Scene Etiquette
- Never interrupt a scene unless you hear the safeword “Mayday.”
- Do not join a scene unless it was pre-negotiated.
- Leave space for the Top to move—if asked to step back, please do so.
- Keep voices low during scenes or move to a social area.
- Don’t touch bottoms during or after scenes. If you want to help, ask the Top first.
- Compliments are great—wait until everyone has recovered.
- Never abandon a submissive. If you must leave, get a Red Band to stay with them.
- Clean everything when you’re done. Supplies are in the kitchen/pass-through area.
Safewords & Mentors
- Play at your own level. Use safewords if you need to stop.
- Trying something new? Ask a mentor, monitor, or Red Band for help.
- If you see blood unexpectedly (not pre-negotiated blood play), stop immediately and cover it before resuming.
✅ Consent, Negotiation, & Harassment
Consent
- If it’s not an enthusiastic “Yes!”, it’s a No.
- “Maybe later” means No.
- Consent can be revoked at any time.
Boundaries
- Don’t be afraid to say “No thank you.”
- Respect when others say no—move on gracefully.
- Never touch anyone without explicit consent, even casually.
Negotiation
- Thorough negotiation happens before a scene.
- Avoid re-negotiating mid-scene unless you’re using a safeword to check in.
- Be clear about what you do and do not want—you are responsible for communicating your needs.
Harassment
- If someone declines or seems uninterested, leave them be.
- If anyone is persistent or making you uncomfortable, tell a Red Band right away.
New to negotiation?
Ask a Red Band or a trusted person to help or observe.