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Eastern Carolina's Longest Running BDSM Education Group

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What is a Red Band?

Red Bands are our version of Dungeon Monitors (DMs)—they’re the folks watching over the play space to help keep things safe, respectful, and enjoyable for everyone.

While Dungeon Monitors in larger dungeons or conventions are often trained in first aid and CPR and have completed formal DM classes, our Red Bands do not have that level of medical training. Because of that, we intentionally chose not to call them Dungeon Monitors.

Instead, we created the term “Red Band” to reflect their role and make them easily identifiable. At our events, Red Bands wear red armbands and red lanyards with name tags so you can spot them quickly if you need assistance or have a concern.

What Red Bands do:

  • Monitor scenes to ensure safety and consent
  • Step in only when necessary (e.g., consent violations or safety concerns)
  • Offer support and guidance when asked
  • Keep a calm, respectful presence in the dungeon

What Red Bands don’t do:

  • Interfere with scenes unless absolutely necessary
  • Act as medics or provide medical care
  • Police play styles that are consensual and negotiated

They’re essentially the lifeguards of our BDSM pool—there to help things run smoothly and safely so everyone can have a good time.

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