{"id":198,"date":"2022-12-15T16:19:12","date_gmt":"2022-12-15T21:19:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/?page_id=198"},"modified":"2025-06-27T08:13:43","modified_gmt":"2025-06-27T13:13:43","slug":"play-space-rules","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/play-space-rules\/","title":{"rendered":"Play Space Rules"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">\ud83d\uded1 Play Space &amp; Scene Basics<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Watching &amp; Learning<\/strong><br>\u2705 Observing scenes is encouraged\u2014just use your <strong>eyes and ears only<\/strong>, not your hands or mouth.<br>\u274c No eye rolling or rude comments. If it\u2019s not your thing, quietly leave the area.<br>\u2705 Feel free to ask questions\u2014<strong>after<\/strong> the scene and aftercare have ended or by approaching a Red Band.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Sex &amp; Toys<\/strong><br>\u274c <strong>No sex<\/strong> is allowed at play parties.<br>\u2705 You may use dungeon toys and furniture, but <strong>ask a Red Band or Ms. Di first<\/strong>.<br>\u2705 If something breaks or needs moving, tell a Red Band right away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Edgeplay &amp; Messy Play<\/strong><br>\u2705 Edgeplay (like CNC, blood, breath, needles) is allowed <strong>only for experienced players<\/strong>, and must be cleared <strong>with Ms. Di or a Red Band before starting<\/strong>.<br>\u2705 Messy play (wax, piss, splooshing) requires plastic coverings\u2014ask where to set up.<br>\u274c Scat play is not allowed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Scene Etiquette<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Never interrupt<\/strong> a scene unless you hear the safeword <strong>\u201cMayday.\u201d<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Do not join<\/strong> a scene unless it was pre-negotiated.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Leave space for the Top to move\u2014if asked to step back, please do so.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Keep voices low during scenes or move to a social area.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don\u2019t touch bottoms during or after scenes. If you want to help, <strong>ask the Top first.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Compliments are great\u2014<strong>wait until everyone has recovered.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Never abandon a submissive.<\/strong> If you must leave, get a Red Band to stay with them.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Clean everything when you\u2019re done. Supplies are in the kitchen\/pass-through area.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Safewords &amp; Mentors<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Play at your own level.<\/strong> Use safewords if you need to stop.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Trying something new? Ask a mentor, monitor, or Red Band for help.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you see blood unexpectedly (not pre-negotiated blood play), <strong>stop immediately<\/strong> and cover it before resuming.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">\u2705 Consent, Negotiation, &amp; Harassment<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Consent<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>If it\u2019s not an <strong>enthusiastic \u201cYes!\u201d<\/strong>, it\u2019s a <strong>No.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cMaybe later\u201d means <strong>No.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Consent can be revoked <strong>at any time.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Boundaries<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Don\u2019t be afraid to say \u201cNo thank you.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Respect when others say no\u2014move on gracefully.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Never touch anyone without explicit consent, even casually.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Negotiation<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Thorough negotiation happens before a scene.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Avoid re-negotiating mid-scene unless you\u2019re using a safeword to check in.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Be clear about what you do and do not want\u2014<strong>you are responsible for communicating your needs.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Harassment<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>If someone declines or seems uninterested, <strong>leave them be.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If anyone is persistent or making you uncomfortable, <strong>tell a Red Band right away.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>New to negotiation?<\/strong><br>Ask a Red Band or a trusted person to help or observe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\ud83d\uded1 Play Space &amp; Scene Basics Watching &amp; Learning\u2705 Observing scenes is encouraged\u2014just use your eyes and ears only, not your hands or mouth.\u274c No eye rolling or rude comments&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p class=\"more-link-wrap\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/play-space-rules\/\" class=\"more-link\">Read More<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &ldquo;Play Space Rules&rdquo;<\/span> &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-198","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/198","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=198"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/198\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":340,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/198\/revisions\/340"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietybdsm.com\/bdsm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=198"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}